I WAS really appalled to read Ladies, good sex makes happy marriages. Marriages fail for many reasons i.e. finances, infidelity, etc. Yes, sex is an important aspect in a marriage but it is NOT the most important. Ask any married couple and you'll learn that marriage isn't all about sex, but juggling day-to-day decisions, learning to live with each other's different character and habits, and taking care of the children.  

We all live in an oversexed world and casual sex before marriage has raised the expectations of performance in bed. But the people we marry are not super sexy models, not ex-porn stars or underwear models. They are just very normal people who have bad breath, bad hair days, and even bad smell days.  

Sex within marriage is something really intimate and sacred. It is practised within a safe and secure environment where no one sets the standard on how each person must perform. I wonder: If my husband were a bad kisser and a bad performer, do I send him to kissing school?  

Or do I send him to watch more pornography or to the local doctor to prescribe the miracle drug? I wonder: Did Pamela Anderson's earlier marriage fail because she failed to perform?  

Perhaps Satisfied Husband has not read the Internet story that was voted the best e-mail of the year about a man who wished he were his wife for a day so he could relax at home, only to realise that it was not easy after all. He wanted to change back but he had to wait nine months because he just got pregnant! 

Both parties need to work at a marriage to make it last. I feel sorry and really pity A Satisfied Husband's wife for having to perform every single time just to keep her marriage intact.  

Appalled Wife, Petaling Jaya

Spot on, Satisfied Husband!